As I was scrolling through Facebook, I came across a post that did a wonderful job describing the IEP meeting.  It’s important for parents to be mentally prepared for how it will feel, including the many adults who will be present that will tell you all about your child.  The group will explain all the ways your child is behind their peers and will feel focused on all the negative parts of your child.  It may even feel as if it is your fault as a parent.  You will be asked such things as:

• What do you want to share about your child?

• Do you see these behaviors at home? 

• Do you have any questions for us?

At this point, you have no idea what to share or ask.  You may even feel judged and may become defensive.  You may stop listening and may be stuck on the last thing they said about your child.  This might not be the child you see at home either but you are not placing the same expectations on your child.  

IEP meetings can be tough but they don’t need to be so overwhelming that we lose focus on our child.  

I encourage parents to:

• Know your rights and the safeguards in place to protect you and your child.

• Invite people to go with you.

• Request copies of all materials ahead of time to review.

• Do not be confined to the school's timing for the meeting.  If you are scheduled for 45 minutes and at the end you do not feel comfortable wrapping up the meeting, ask for it to be continued.  The school may not be able to accommodate, but they can schedule another meeting.  

Check out the following for more information:

9 Parental Rights in the IEP Process

IEP's A Parent's Guide

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